Original Advice
“You are allowed to value space and steady love - You can ask for breathing room and consistent check-ins without apologizing. Name it, negotiate it, and hold the boundary with kindness. Drop the guilt — you're not difficult; you're clear.”
Space Is Your Love Language
Stop pretending your lungs don’t burn. You’ve been calling your needs “too much” so other people stay comfortable. Not today. You require oxygen and rhythm: room to think, and a steady pulse that proves you’re not alone in the room. Ask for both. Name the cadence. Set the perimeter. No disclaimers. No softening emojis. Clarity is not cruelty. It’s maintenance, like charging your phone.
Space without consistency feels like abandonment. Consistency without space feels like handcuffs. Your job is not to tolerate either extreme. Design the middle. Decide the frequency that keeps your nervous system quiet: morning check-in, goodnight call, two untouched evenings for your brain to wander. State it. Repeat it. Enforce it with warmth and a calendar. Love isn’t guessing; it’s agreed-upon timing.
Cosmic Context
Fixed air: wide sky with a backbone. Uranus jolts, Saturn steadies; your love needs both—open horizons and repeating signals.
Action
──────Send: “I want daily check-ins and two nights alone weekly.”
✨ You are allowed to need distance and devotion, loudly and without guilt. ✨