If you’ve wondered whether Aquarius is selfish, you’re not alone. Short answer: not usually, but they can appear that way. Their independence, big-idea focus, and cool-headed style can read as self-involved. You’re not imagining it if an Aquarius seems distant or prioritizes personal freedom. Underneath, most Aquarians care deeply about people and principles—just not always in traditional, one-on-one ways.

Context matters. Aquarius energy favors the collective and ideas over constant emotional merging, so they may miss personal cues. Be direct: name what you need, plan alone time, and appreciate their contributions. Ask them to show care in tangible, consistent ways. If you’re Aquarius, practice small check-ins and explain your why—strength plus softness makes everyone feel seen.