Original Advice
“DONT: Don't label passion as clinginess to control.”
Stop Mistaking Heat For Chains
You slap the word clingy on genuine heat to keep the steering wheel in your hands. You crave pursuit, not presence. Their consistent attention exposes your fear of being read, not their flaw. Control tastes like victory to your ego, but it starves intimacy. You turn affection into an opponent so you never have to surrender anything but your exit.
Passion isn’t surveillance. It’s investment. Your independence isn’t threatened by someone reaching for you; your avoidance is. Fire needs oxygen, not a padlock. When you label care as control, you dodge the work of stating limits and inviting closeness. Name what overwhelms you. Keep what’s yours. Let the other person keep their flame without shaming it. Heat shared still burns bright.
Cosmic Context
Aries is Mars-ruled, built to initiate and defend autonomy. Your lesson now: choose courage over control; let desire meet you without a fight.
Action
──────Stop calling their check-ins clingy; name your boundary clearly.
✨ You are allowed to be wanted without being cornered. ✨