Original Advice
“DO: Ask what they're protecting before proposing change.”
Name The Fort, Then Knock
Their stubbornness is not defiance; it's a locked pantry of fear, pride, and fragile systems that feed them. When you push, you become a storm at their door. Stop arguing with the barricade. Ask what the barricade is guarding. Make the question your key. If you can't name the treasure, you don't get to move the furniture.
People protect stories: about safety, competence, belonging. Change rewrites chapters they still live in. When you locate the story, you locate the switch. Name the nursery they built, the ledger they balance, the face they save. Offer change that preserves the protected thing, and the gate opens. Ignore it, and you wrestle ghosts, spreadsheets, and heirlooms until you break something you can't replace.
Cosmic Context
Moon-ruled, you understand shells and kitchens—how hearts live inside structures. Use your tide to soothe defenses, not slam them.
Action
──────Ask this verbatim: 'What are you protecting by keeping it this way?'
✨ You are allowed to protect what matters and still demand change. ✨