Original Advice
“Harmony can hide self-abandonment: Chasing harmony at all costs often means ignoring your own needs. If you never risk friction, you quietly teach others to expect compliance. Independence demands tolerating a little discomfort.”
Choose Friction Over Disappearance
Stop polishing the room while you vanish. Your diplomacy is a costume that keeps everyone comfortable except you. When peace is your altar, you sacrifice appetite, edge, sleep. Every swallowed opinion writes a manual on how to use you. You confuse niceness with safety, approval with love. Independence is not soft. It asks you to risk raised eyebrows, a slammed door, the awkward air.
Harmony without truth breeds rot. People learn your silence means yes, so they ask for more. Power slides toward the loudest mouth. Correct it. Say the unsaid in plain words. Let tension do its job. Friction is data; it teaches both sides where the edges are. A clean no is kinder than a sticky yes. Practice small refusals until your spine remembers.
Cosmic Context
Libra is cardinal air ruled by Venus; you build balance, not bondage. Use the scales to weigh your needs equally with theirs.
Action
──────Say no to one request that drains you today.
✨ You are allowed to choose yourself and let the room adjust. ✨