Original Advice
“You are allowed to ask for more than 'nice'. - You're not picky for expecting consistency, honesty, and mutual effort. If niceness feels vague, set standards and speak them; the right people will rise to meet you. Release guilt for wanting clarity and reciprocity.”
Beyond Nice: Require Proof and Pattern
Nice is fog. It wets your skin and starves your spine. Polite smiles keep you quiet while your needs bruise in private. Stop grading people on charm. Grade them on calls returned, plans kept, truths told when it would be easier to lie. Demand receipts: time, attention, repair. If they flinch, believe it. Your life is not a waiting room for someone’s better behavior.
Niceness is cheap currency; anyone can spend it once. Consistency costs. Honesty costs. Mutual effort pays interest you can feel. You chase harmony, so you swallow crumbs to avoid waves. But imbalance breeds resentment and rusts intimacy from the inside. Standards are architecture, not attitude. Speak them and you build a doorway. The wrong ones bounce. The right ones knock, wait, and show up again.
Cosmic Context
Venus-ruled Libra seeks balance; your scales calibrate to truth, not sugar. As an air sign, you cut haze with language—use it to engineer symmetry.
Action
──────Write three non-negotiables. Say them aloud on your next date.
✨ You are allowed to stop rewarding 'nice' and require consistency. ✨