Original Advice
“You are allowed to... want reassurance without apology - Ask directly for clarity, consistency, and closeness—these are valid needs, not flaws. You can pause to self-soothe before responding to triggers. Release the guilt; seeking security is healthy when paired with boundaries.”
Ask For Certainty Without Apology
Jealousy is not romance; it's a smoke detector. It screams because your nervous system has receipts. When you feel the spike, don't perform cool. Don't scroll their shadows or decode silence. Ask. Out loud. Clarity, consistency, closeness. No bow, no apology. If they flinch, note it. If they delay, note it. Your need is information, not drama. Treat it like water: daily, non-negotiable.
Reassurance is maintenance, not indulgence. Engines run smoother when oiled; bonds do too. You learned to tiptoe around mood swings and mixed signals; that training lied. Direct questions end the scavenger hunt. Boundaries keep your empathy from bleeding out. Pause. Breathe into the ribs. Answer the body before the phone. Then speak plainly. Ask for plans, definitions, timing. Security grows where ambiguity starves.
Cosmic Context
Neptune rules you; fog is familiar, not nourishing. Your oceanic intuition sharpens when you require lighthouses, not rumors.
Action
──────Text: I want a weekly check-in. Confirm by tonight.
✨ You are allowed to want certainty, ask directly, and stop chasing. ✨