Original Advice
“You are allowed to choose your own intensity - You don’t have to match anyone’s emotional speed. Name what you need, set terms that honor it, and choose people who can meet you there. No guilt, no shame.”
Set the Tempo of Your Weird
Stop borrowing other people’s tempo. Your weird isn’t a quirk; it’s a metronome. You keep sprinting to match their urgency, then blaming yourself for the crash. That’s self-betrayal disguised as being easy to love. Choose your wattage. Decide when to dive, when to drift. Let silence stretch. Let replies take hours. If someone calls you cold, they just met your thermostat.
Intensity is not volume; it’s direction. Aim it. Your body keeps time; your mind writes the score. When you name your terms out loud, the room recalibrates. The right ones slow their breathing. The wrong ones bolt. Perfect. You are not here to be accessible; you are here to be accurate. Choose conditions that protect your signal. Fewer doors. Clearer thresholds. Less noise, more truth.
Cosmic Context
As fixed water, you erode stone, not seconds. Mars and Pluto made you a pressure system—set the barometric rules or drown in other people’s weather.
Action
──────Tell one person, 'I need 48 hours before decisions.'
✨ You are allowed to choose a strange pace and keep it. ✨