Original Advice
“You are allowed to want steady fire. - Ask for both passion and reliability without apologizing. Clarify what romantic consistency looks like, and hold that standard. Choosing partners who meet it isn’t picky; it’s self-respect.”
Steady Fire, Not Flickers
You’ve treated chaos like proof of heat. The delayed texts, the sudden kisses, the exits without warning—adrenaline dressed as love. You call it spontaneity; it’s laziness wearing cologne. Wanting devotion with spark isn’t greedy; it’s adult. Stop letting people audition with fireworks and vanish after. If they can’t show up on Tuesday, they don’t earn your Saturday. Choose continuity over cliffhanger.
Real passion scales when it trusts its own room. Consistency is erotic because it frees your speed: you race farther when the road is paved. Standards don’t kill mystery; they protect stamina. Define how you like to be loved—responses within a day, plans that stick, affection that repeats. Then enforce it. Fire needs a hearth, not a windstorm.
Cosmic Context
You’re Mars-ruled cardinal fire, built to launch and lead. Your heat becomes legend when the fuel is consistent.
Action
──────Write your three non-negotiables; say them on the second date.
✨ You are allowed to demand a blazing love that shows up daily. ✨