Original Advice
“DO: Name the behavior's impact, not their character.”
Aim at Impact, Not Ego
Your fire loves to call it like it is, to brand them selfish and be done. That feeds their script. Name the hit, not the villain. Say what their lateness costs you. Say how the interruption derails your thought. Facts bruise ego armor. Precision is a blade. Cut the moment, not the person. Keep your dignity. Make the room colder than their charm.
Accusations give them fuel and a stage. Impact strips spectacle. When you say, “When you overpromise, I miss deadlines,” you anchor the conversation to consequences. There’s nothing to debate. Behavior can change; character becomes a war. You want results, not scorched earth. Train your aim. Track dates, times, outcomes. Repetition builds a record. Records become boundaries. Boundaries become silence they notice.
Cosmic Context
Aries is ignition, not drama. Aim your fire like a welder, not a wildfire.
Action
──────Say: 'When you cancel, I lose hours.' Then stop talking.
✨ You are allowed to end the conversation after one clear sentence. ✨