Original Advice
“DONT: Test people by disappearing without explanation.”
Stop Turning Silence Into Tests
Your vanishing act isn’t a love test. It’s a trap you set for yourself. People can’t pass exams they never got the syllabus for. Silence doesn’t protect your heart; it starves the bond and feeds your fear. Each disappearance says, louder than words, you don’t matter to me. You turn tenderness into punishment, and then call the emptiness proof. That’s not safety. That’s control.
Absence isn’t a boundary; it’s a blunt instrument. It teaches people to walk on eggshells, not to care better. Clarity is softer than a vanish and stronger than a sulk. Say what you need, then go dark with a clock, not a question mark. Let people meet you where you are. The real courage is staying visible while your tide is low.
Cosmic Context
You’re Moon-ruled: tidal, protective, cardinal. Retreat is holy; use your shell as shelter, not a weapon.
Action
──────Tell them: I need space tonight. I'll text you tomorrow.
✨ You are allowed to ask for space without disappearing. ✨