Original Advice
“Stubbornness isn't the real issue: You're pushing change faster than they feel safe. Without proof you'll stick around and follow through, a Cancer will dig in. The pattern continues until you change yours.”
Your Rush Builds Their Wall
Stubbornness is the decoy. You're demanding acceleration from someone wired for safety, then blaming them for bracing. You arrive with urgency. They hear eviction. They lock the door and barricade with history. You call it control; it's a floodgate. Your rush is the trigger. Their "no" is the life jacket. Stop yanking sprouts and expecting roses. Prove you stay after the dopamine. Commit, then ask.
Cancer measures consistency, not intensity. They count texts, arrivals, returns after fights. They archive weather patterns, not fireworks. Promises without systems read as noise. Reliability is erotic to them. Same time, same tone, even when bored. Slow repetition dissolves panic; nervous systems sync; the shell unlocks. When the tide learns you come back, the shore stops eroding. Pace equals care. If you can't be steady, stop auditioning.
Cosmic Context
Moon-ruled, Cancer moves by tide, not alarm. Cardinal water initiates only when the harbor feels real.
Action
──────Choose one promise; keep it daily for 30 days.
✨ You are allowed to stop pushing and start demonstrating. ✨