Original Advice
“DONT: Don't diagnose them as a narcissist.”
Burn the Narcissist Label
You want control, so you name the monster. That feels like power; it's not. The label freezes you in a drama you secretly enjoy. When you stamp 'narcissist' on them, you stop listening and start performing. It's gossip dressed as certainty. Their behavior is real; your diagnosis is theater. Drop the costume. Choose consequences over categories. Choose boundaries over buzzwords.
Clinicians diagnose; you decide access. Labels shield your ego from hard choices. They keep you arguing with a concept instead of a person. Track patterns: broken promises, shifting blame, contempt, charm that evaporates under scrutiny. Respond to actions, not archetypes. You don't need a file; you need a plan. Close doors. Shorten leashes. Enforce costs. Leave.
Cosmic Context
You're a Leo: the Sun doesn't label the weather; it sets the climate. Your royalty isn't in diagnosing subjects—it's in ruling your realm with bright, unapologetic boundaries.
Action
──────Write three boundaries, communicate one today, enforce it immediately.
✨ You are allowed to walk away without a label. ✨