Original Advice
“DONT: Don’t mirror; state your real preference first.”
Lead With Preference, Not Reflection
Your reflex is to mirror—smooth voice, agreeable nod, borrowed taste. It keeps rooms calm and your pulse hidden. It also makes you invisible. That smile steals hours you never chose. In intensity, imitation is a lie. Someone will lead; if it isn’t you, you’ll follow into a life flavored by other mouths. State what you want. Risk friction. Earn oxygen.
Mirroring was a survival trick: keep scales balanced, get invited back. But the algorithm of intimacy reads it as blank space. You train others to overlook you. Preference stated first sets gravity; bodies, budgets, plans orbit it. Intense people respect edges, not fog. Name your flavor before the menu closes. You are not hard to love—only hard to locate when you vanish.
Cosmic Context
You are cardinal air: born to initiate connection, not impersonate it. Venus gives you taste—use it to choose, not to curate consensus.
Action
──────At the next invite, name the restaurant you actually want.
✨ You are allowed to disappoint the room to find your room. ✨