Original Advice
“You are allowed to ask for reassurance - Your tenderness is not a flaw; it's information about your needs. Ask openly for check-ins, clarity, and affection without apologizing. Meeting needs directly is mature, not needy.”
Choose Clarity Over Clutching
Your grip doesn't keep anyone. The clutching, the silent tests, the psychic surveillance—none of it protects you. It only starves you and confuses them. Jealousy is hunger dressed as control. Tenderness is data, not dirt. Stop pretending you need nothing. Ask for reassurance, clarity, and affection in plain words. Need openly. Secrecy breeds distance. Directness builds oxygen. Say what keeps you soft.
People are not tides to read; they are mouths to answer. Assumptions multiply in the dark and turn you possessive. Clarity shrinks monsters. Check-ins are not contracts; they’re weather reports. When you ask, you calibrate. When you don’t, you catastrophize. Love prefers readable labels over psychic Wi‑Fi. Replace fishing for proof with scheduled honesty. Make reassurance routine, not a ransom.
Cosmic Context
You are mutable water: porous, psychic, easily swamped by unspoken currents. Channel that sensitivity into clear asks, not tidal possession.
Action
──────Send one text: "I need a check-in tonight. Are you available?"
✨ You are allowed to need often and ask out loud. ✨