Original Advice
“DO: Do ask directly, set deadlines, and screenshot plans.”
Trade Velvet For Verifiable Receipts
Fake nice feeds on your fog. Smiles promise everything, calendars promise nothing. Stop translating hints. Speak the question out loud, put a date on it, and trap the plan in pixels. If they balk, you just learned the answer. If they agree, you just built a boundary. Your softness is not a service counter. It’s a shoreline. Post the tide times.
Vagueness lets people borrow your time without paying. Deadlines turn vibes into commitments. Screenshots protect you from amnesia—yours and theirs. Direct questions disarm charm offensives and force clarity to show up sober. This is not paranoia; it’s housekeeping. You are not rejecting kindness; you are measuring it. Track agreements the way sailors chart stars: not to control the sea, but to not drown in it.
Cosmic Context
You are a water sign ruled by Neptune; fog is your native element. Structure is your anchor, not your cage.
Action
──────Send one clarifying message today with a firm deadline.
✨ You are allowed to ask twice and then leave. ✨