Original Advice
“DONT: Don’t turn care into control or constant checking.”
Care Without Control, Virgo
Your caretaking crosses the line. What you call attentiveness is surveillance with a halo. Every “just checking in” is a small raid on their autonomy. You’re counting pulses that aren’t yours to count. Control does not prevent chaos; it creates it. Stop babysitting adults. Let silence be evidence of trust, not a problem to solve. Love doesn’t need a dashboard.
Your mind hunts for variables to tame anxiety. Data feels like devotion. It is not. The need to know every detail is a spell you cast against unpredictability, and it backfires. People become reports. Intimacy shrinks. Leave the mystery intact. If something matters, it will surface without being shaken. Precision belongs to your craft; give your relationships room for weather.
Cosmic Context
You’re Mercury-ruled: built to refine, tempted to correct. Use discernment as a filter, not a leash.
Action
──────Send one message. Then stop. Let replies arrive without pursuit.
✨ You are allowed to not know and still be loving. ✨