Original Advice
“Stop calling intensity clingy by default: Sometimes the problem isn't Aries—it's your mixed signals and lack of boundaries. If you say yes then pull back, you train hot-and-cold behavior. Decide what you want, communicate it, and stick to it.”
Stop Calling Intensity Clingy
Your inconsistency breeds the clinginess you complain about. You say yes, then ghost-light the room. You flirt, then freeze. They aren’t intense; they’re responding to your on-off switch. Call it what it is: training. Every retreat after a green light teaches pursuit. If you want ease, stop baiting storms. Choose a speed. Keep it. No more accelerate-brake-accelerate.
Hot-and-cold feels exciting because it mirrors your spark—quick ignition, quick retreat. But fire without a hearth burns furniture. Boundaries aren’t rejection; they’re structure. When you overpromise then disappear, you create uncertainty, and uncertainty addicts people to crumbs. Consistency rewires the dynamic. Say what fits your bandwidth. Repeat it until it’s boring. Let desire be loud and predictable at the same time.
Cosmic Context
Aries is Mars-ruled cardinal fire. You are built for clean initiations and decisive follow-through—use that.
Action
──────Tell them your weekly availability and do not deviate for 30 days.
✨ You are allowed to want steady heat without apologizing. ✨