Short answer: Cancers aren't naturally bossy - they're protective. If you're wondering whether Cancer signs come off as controlling, it's usually because they care deeply about people and spaces they love. Moon-ruled and security-focused, they'll step up when emotions run high or plans feel shaky. That can read as 'bossy,' but it's typically caretaking leadership, not power-tripping.
To keep it balanced, give Cancer clear roles and appreciation, and share how decisions affect your feelings. Ask for collaboration, set gentle boundaries, and agree on who leads what. When they feel safe and heard, they relax and trust the process. Notice their effort, not just their directions; you'll get their warmth and reliability without the micromanaging vibe.