Original Advice
“You are allowed to expect proof of care - Ask for consistent actions, transparency, and agreed boundaries without apologizing. Take space or slow the relationship if those needs aren't met. You don't owe guilt for protecting your trust.”
Demand Receipts For Love
Here is the uncomfortable: someone who broke the agreement owes you proof, not poetry. Accept nothing verbal without matching pattern. Demand boring consistency—arrival times, followed plans, unlocked explanations. If their actions wobble, you step back. Stop apologizing for your standards. Your trust is not public transit; it doesn't run on hope. Close the gate until behavior earns a key.
Trust survives on repetition and daylight. Cheating created mold; ventilation is nonnegotiable. Transparency is not surveillance; it's maintenance after a leak. Boundaries are not drama; they're the scaffolding that keeps the structure standing. You do not rehabilitate a bridge by wishing—it requires weight limits, inspections, and time. If they want access, they carry materials, show receipts, and follow the posted load.
Cosmic Context
You are cardinal earth under Saturn: structure first, longevity always. You don't chase sparks; you keep the furnace running and demand fuel logs.
Action
──────Set a weekly transparency check-in; cancel dates if missed.
✨ You are allowed to require evidence before you rebuild trust. ✨