Original Advice
“DO: Do communicate preferences clearly, before and during.”
Say It. Then Do It.
Uncomfortable truth: your partner cannot read your mind, and your silence is not sexy. You correct typos but let guesswork run your body. That is self-sabotage. Say what, where, how, and when. Before clothes move. During the heat. Use short sentences. No riddles, no tests. If you want it slower, say slower. If you want a switch, say switch. Clarity is the kink you keep refusing.
Words tune the instrument. Your nervous system calms when the map is clear. Feedback tightens the loop between intention and touch. It saves time, prevents resentment, and multiplies pleasure. Mercury rules you; precision is your native language. Share control to increase control. Call the plays, then adjust. Iterate. Praise what works. Redirect what doesn’t. Keep your body present by giving your mouth a job.
Cosmic Context
Virgo is mutable earth—grounded, adaptable, Mercury-ruled. You edit reality with detail; apply the same power to desire.
Action
──────Before you touch, list three yeses and three noes.
✨ You are allowed to ask for exactly what you want. ✨